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How September 11 changed the world?

This piece is dedicated to all who lost their lives and who lost families, friends in the 9/11 attacks on the United States of America.

The entire world changed on this day, September 11, 2001. I was standing on what is called the ‘front page area’ of my school when I heard what happened on this sad day. I saw teachers running about to offices to view live coverage from New York and other parts of the USA that were attacked. Back then I heard the World Trade Centre was attacked and I remember wondering “What is that?”

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Today, our rights have been altered in some way, how governments handle events, economies shaken, diplomacy, security procedures, travel rules, etc have all changed because of the terrorists attacks on September 11, 2001.

I watched footages from the major networks who replayed the exact coverage as the events unfolded. What struck me was the moment President Bush was told by his aide that the country was being attacked. You saw a man that was shocked and scared but at the same time who had to hold his composure. He had to because as a leader but more so a President you do not want to be seen in a frantic mode that is not in control of the situation. I found that very interesting that even in a moment where you are being attacked certainly not in control he gave an image that was thoughtful, and composed.

Many in the western world were sad and saw it as unbelievable because no matter how independent your nation may be; we are in some ways affected by what happens in the United States of America. As people grieved thousands in Israel celebrated the loss of lives shouting “God is good.”

On September 11, 2001 for those who thought terrorism was not an immediate threat instantaneously saw the impact of this because it happened to the greatest nation in the world the mighty USA. President Bush’s presidential term was now aimed at this attack; finding the perpetrators. The 9/11 attacks dubbed Bush the war president as he was fervent in finding the attackers. This attack changed US politics as Bush’s approval ratings shot up to the highest in history plummeting to over 90%; but we all saw in times coming to the close of term, his numbers trended downwards.

Years later millions of people all around the world remember the events that took place on this day. We regret the passing of so many lives but we are even more cognisant of the fact that there are evil men and groups in our world whose aims are to kill and terrorise people. We must support efforts and wars that will bring to justice those who will kill us in a moment. How we fight wars that is another issue.

Can men cry?

man-cryingMen who cry…..what can we make of them? They are soft, insecure, wimps, cry babies, sissies, bitches, other degrading words are used, and the list goes on. But the fact is men who cry or show emotions publicly are seen as losers. Are they?

The perceptions we have of men who cry or show emotions publicly are often times culturally driven. Most cultures do not agree or will accept men crying or men showing emotions. We can readily accept women showing emotive language because to some, women are weak, lower than men and are born expressive beings. But, how can we accept women who cry but we cannot accept the same of men? Aren’t we all the same?

Is this attitude the same across the world? Clearly it isn’t. I am appalled that we on the Western side of the world have this terrible view of men who show emotions publicly. We believe that men who show emotions are weak. It is however, the opposite, those men who show emotions are actually strong men. Women will tell you that if a man is strong enough to show emotions publicly they will respect them even more. It does not benefit a person to store up all that emotions inside and never have the boldness to express it. That is what we do when we degrade men who show cry and show emotions; we stifle their emotional and psychological development. Can we save people from heading down a road of suicide? We can if we foster cultures where we accept that is okay to express your deepest emotions.

Take France and other European cultures for example, they do not have cultures where they bash men who show emotions. For them it is quite normal. It would be like walking the street, pretty normal. I believe countries who can accept the expression of emotions are advanced and mature when men and women are able to express themselves not having any fear that they will be chastised for feeling hurt, or even feeling pain.

Women mostly should take responsibility for the attacks men have received because of the expression of emotions. Majority of times they drive this negative escapade. Through those experiences men recognize that hey if I show my emotions she/he will think less of me and think I am weak. I do not know how men have reached this low point. But it is time to prove to men that they are strong emotionally when they are able and freely to express themselves.

man-crying (1)What is also depressing is that the media pushes this culture of allowing men who show emotions to feel like wimps. They support this thrust to have men always exude a presence of power which is not bad. But we must also support the real growth of a man and that is to support the man when he is at his weakest, the moments when he is hurt. Men should be able to express themselves and not have the risk of people calling them the worst names ever.

Times change some say. I hope we will mature culturally and recognize that when men show emotions whether of strength or weakness that they will be seen as normal as they are. NO, a man is not touching his feminine side when he cries, he is a man.