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Video Music Awards

16951176On a night where artistes were celebrated and the best in category awarded there were some regrettable actions. The start of the event saw the organizers paying a well deserved tribute to the greatest icon in music, Michael Jackson. The bar was set very high as the beginning where the tribute was performed with great artistry and was excellent keeping the audience entertained. Who knew what would come next? The first category to be mentioned saw lots of drama. Taylor Swift won the award for Best Female Video beating Beyonce who was expected to take the category. In the middle of her speech Kanye West who was seen drinking earlier interrupted exclaiming on the microphone that Beyonce had one of the best videos of all time.

Although he was booed at the music awards, he also suffered bad publicity for his harsh statements. It was reported that he left the award show early after refusing to apologize at the event. I do not think Kanye was apologetic in his initial statements. However, in his Jay Leno interview it placed everything in perspective and you got to see how humble one could get. I was not a fan of Kanye before this incident and still am not one. He is known for his over the top ego but now I know he has a different lease on life. I do not see him repeating this selfish act. Let’s be positive and hope he won’t.

Chris Brown

After beating Barbados’ rising Caribbean queen Rihanna to a pulp, justice have now been served to the forgetful Chris Brown. Recently Chris Brown was on a Public Relations drive to improve his image in the media. On Larry King Live Chris Brown suffered from selective memory stating he did not remember laying hands on Rihanna. The public saw the abused images of pop star Rihanna. However Chris Brown who did the beating clearly has forgotten the diatribe. He has been sentenced and was recently photographed cleaning grounds. Chris Brown who I would say have been welcomed in the music industry is still recording music, doing collaborations and being published in the media.

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I am upset with the media for celebrating the acts Brown did. Certainly, the media is biased but the way they treated Brown declared that they sanctioned his actions of beating a female. I am upset that they haven’t kicked him to the curb. Today, Chris Brown will be showered with more female fans screaming his name all waiting for him to lay hands on them. Chris Brown is second and he has a new lease on life.

Whitney Houston

Whitney Houston who sang her way into the hearts of many internationally is now promoting her new album after many years away from the industry. Houston who married Bobby Brown was a music wreck in her marriage as they both became known for their addiction to cocaine. With the messy life Whitney lived she is now promoting her new hot album which is getting rave reviews. In a recent interview with the queen of talk show Oprah Winfrey Whitney Houston spoke about her challenges and struggles with her marriage and family. Although she is being chastised for not accepting her addiction in the interview; personally I believe she should be praised for taking the step out of a life of despair where she can now be a testimony for those who are living a life of addiction.

Should we talk about Britney Spears and NFL Michael Vick? Both had major challenges and now have found ways to channel their lives to have a new lease on life. Good luck to them.

Today, you might be thinking your mistakes will forever have you down and out. One cancer survivor recently said in an interview that surviving cancer places everything in perspective because you never know what tomorrow holds. That is the thought if not the primary message that this piece wants to emphasize. Tomorrow is not guaranteed for anyone and living life to the fullest must be our ultimate aim daily. Mistakes today are to be corrected for tomorrow. Although the examples used are from celebrities we have heroes in our families and close circles who have overcome challenges. Any addiction or mistakes you have had over any period can be corrected and give you the new lease on life.

Love’s Actions!

LoversGazeREX_468x304Love is a feeling you feel when you feel a feeling you feel you had never felt before. If that is love then you shouldn’t be feeling that feeling too often. For many of us, finding love is a dream, that aspiration to meet the one who connects and feels your inner emotions, your ultimate soul mate. Humans need affection, love and companionship which we all seek daily. If love never existed the world would be at war, and many of the unions and offspring would not be here today to continue humanity. Apart from love towards our neighbours, closest friends and families there is a special love we all reserve for the ones closest to our hearts. Finding the person to share private moments with can be a thrill for some, devastating for others and a journey that makes you look crazy.

In the book Message in a Bottle by Nicholas Sparks the main character Theresa Osborne finds a bottle with a love letter in it. As a columnist she publishes the letter in the newspaper and finds out there are other letters out there written by the same gentleman. She admires the writer from reading the love letters and begins a journey to find the man who she thinks will be the perfect match for her.

I am sure you have seen couples together and they have that spark that says they are definitely in love. I am quite sure that many readers of this blog right now might even be in love. Love stories will always be told but there are times you hear of a wild experience of someone in love and make you ponder; is it real love?

So you did what?

For those seeking love it can be a whirlwind, it stirs everything up blinding your next move. Dating partners from your financial class/level will be critical sometimes. A love story is told some time ago where a top level bank executive asked this particular female on a date. They went to a very expensive restaurant in the city and they had a good time. Perfect! If you have to withdraw a huge amount of your savings or investment to get someone’s attention, to prove you care then they are not worth your time. Many times partners find themselves all in a moment. We are on a high to the point where we are no longer in control of our actions because this person may be the hottest on the market, maybe the one with the personality you’ve been looking for or whatever. I do believe in the notion of going all out for the one you love but never to the point where you suffer financially in the future.

So you’ve changed what?

We all know love makes us do some ridiculous things. However, we should always be in a position to distinguish between the feeling of love and infatuation. If loving the person you are chasing means changing your friends – the good ones, changing your outlook on life, being honest and persistent about your own personal goals then you might not be looking in the right place. When you’ve found love in a partner they should never influence you negatively. Many families are at the bitter end of this stick who confess most times that when members of the family get married or begin to date someone they change overnight into different people because of the huge influence their partners hold over them. I vehemently believe in listening to your partner and respecting those decisions but there comes a point when you should be able to think straight and see through things and make the best decision for your life.

So you’re not happy?

It might take you days, weeks, months to figure out that this person who you have been investing your time and effort in is not making you happy. There is no way someone should stay in a relationship when they are unhappy. This state not only affects you personally but it trickles over in your work, and your relationship with others. Life is too short to sit around and have someone in your personal space eat away at your happiness and you enjoying life. For some, this may take years for them to realize that things have not been developing into what they desired it to be. At this moment you need to sit down and figure out what was blinding you, what has changed and what you can do now to make this work.

Love do sometimes makes us do crazy things I tell you. There is someone out there for each person and the quest to find them can be a thrill, can be devastating, and it could last a lifetime. Find someone who shares similar interests, will love you, who is a lover of life and someone who compliments and will compromise. Live life happily ever after and feel the feeling you have never felt before.

Sweet Communism

Socialism is the same as Communism, only better English” – George Bernard Shaw

Communism according to Wikipedia is a socioeconomic structure and political ideology that promotes the establishment of an egalitarian, classless, stateless society based on common ownership and control of the means of production and property in general.

We have come to know some countries that still practice communism in today’s world. Most democratic countries look down upon regions in the world that still practice this form of government. People’s Republic of China, Republic of Cuba, Democratic People’s Republic of Korea, Socialist Republic of Vietnam and Lao Peoples Democratic Republic all practice communism. What is interesting about these countries is that they all have good attributes those developing and first world countries all envy. There are so many lessons democratic countries can learn from communist countries.

China

China’s ability to manufacture products globally has made the country profitable with many countries owing them millions in trade. Trading is critical for the success and growth of any country. China is able to do this because of the low wages they remunerate staff with. First world countries refer to their ability to sustain large number of employment with cheap labour. China is also advancing with huge developments in technology. Most technological firms are based there. This drives their innovativeness which the western countries gravitate. China was on show for the Olympics in 2008. They used the opportunity to host the world at this event. Most people will never forget the Opening Ceremony at the summer games, as the country went all out to display the very best. A clip will follow this paragraph of the article showing my favourite piece from the performance. The clip will only show a snap shot of what took place in Beijing, China. I have never seen anything like that done before and a point to note; I do not know if London can outperform China in 2012. It’s a wait and see game right now.

Cuba

While most are wildly debating health care reform in America those in Cuba are relishing in one of the best health care system in the world. History will always remind us of the economic sanctions that Cuba has; but with all these factors against the country they are able to provide the best health care system. Cuba is not only able to provide a quality health care system but they are able to provide an education system that rivals many countries with huge investments. Cuba presently exports more than 20,000 doctors to Venezuela in exchange for oil. The country is set to become the premiere destination to study medicine.

North Korea

I love seeing the army on display in North Korea. The precision, unity, timing and power they show when they march is enviable. Countries aim to defend themselves in times of wars; investing in resources that will defend the country when the moment arises, which they never can tell. World powers like the US always have a problem when countries go the limit to defend themselves. One example of this is North Korea using nuclear weapons. The potential danger and threat that this can cause can be devastating. I am in no way sanctioning what North Korea does but the investments made to secure the country are admirable.

I want a country that has all these qualities. Wouldn’t you? A country with the best health care system, quality standards in education and a security system that will always protect from forces outside. There is a flip side to a country practicing this form of government though. The freedom of speech we have come to respect and enjoy will all go away. The government will own everything, all the businesses and properties. The government even decides on what the people can have, rather than what they want. It can be sad transitioning from a democratic state to a communist one.

However, there is one lesson that I will always take from a communist state. There are certainly some things in life we think we can’t live without but in the end, we definitely can.

One’s allegiance to their country must not be compromised. The moment a citizen has breached this rule and decides to run for public office it should become an issue. Most countries have strong rules and opinions on this matter. It is understandably why, pledging allegiance to your country shows love for your country and where your priorities are even when the going gets tough.

Recently in Jamaica politicians were under fire and still are because some pledged allegiance to different sovereign states. Both the ruling government and the opposition have been at war to oust members of the house who have citizenship in other countries. The courts have ruled on the matter and have issued that elections be held in the constituencies that are in question. I believe politicians must prove without a doubt their allegiance and documents proving that they are citizens of that country. This must be done even if the minority wants to know.

obama1There is a budding debate now going on in some quarters of the United States of America where citizens are crying fowl over the authenticity of Obama’s candidacy and him being president. Even if you think that the president is an American citizen which most people still believe why the president won’t provide full proof that he is. He has provided a document that any thief can provide as his birth certificate which doesn’t count. He has not provided the real birth certificate, that authentic document. Political pundits like Lou Dobbs are putting pressure on the issue. It just won’t go away.

Viewers of CNN are even lobbying for Lou Dobbs to leave the network. It’s an issue huge on most blogs. The President of CNN was reported saying that this birth certificate is a non-issue and it’s a dead story since the President released his fake birth certificate. That is appalling coming from a man who should be encouraging his team to research issues that are topical and are of importance. What is also amazing is that people who are against Obama seems to come under pressure when it is a real complaint. The media is so in love and in bed with Obama that they are not questioning this issue. The way they treated McCain on this matter for him to prove he was an American citizen is mind boggling. Can we have some balance here? That is why I also believe that people have a problem with the FOX Network. Because they push the button on issues and apologize to no one for their reporting. I can see why CNN has slipped.

Dobbs

Dobbs

The interesting thing is if Lou Dobbs leaves CNN I am sure FOX will gobble him up and he will have a huge contract providing real news keeping our politicians honest with the top network.

All I want Obama to do is to prove he is a USA citizen. Prove it with the real document. Let us see the seal, the doctor, and the document in its entirety. No make shift document will not work. With the media in bed Obama I am not sure how far this issue will go.

I have been to many weddings in my lifetime but I haven’t seen any like this. This bridal party entry was over the top and it worked. It worked because the bridal party was not goofy. They all could dance and have fun with it. It is true that when you are having fun doing something that energy is transferred to your audience. Viewers who sit and enjoy this video will love it because the dancers are. The entrance is pretty unique done to one of Chris Brown’s hit.

I have been in charge of music for wedding before and if I had brought this song I am definitely positive it would not have been approved. What was amazing to find out is that the church gave the approval for the song. Well, the churches I know would be not be so liberal.

The bride and groom rocked the church. The bride’s entrance was lovely giving her all the attention. I wonder what happened to the parents though. It would have been lovely to see them getting in on the action.

Watch the video and enjoy. Could this be a new trend? Good bye traditional wedding.

Can men cry?

man-cryingMen who cry…..what can we make of them? They are soft, insecure, wimps, cry babies, sissies, bitches, other degrading words are used, and the list goes on. But the fact is men who cry or show emotions publicly are seen as losers. Are they?

The perceptions we have of men who cry or show emotions publicly are often times culturally driven. Most cultures do not agree or will accept men crying or men showing emotions. We can readily accept women showing emotive language because to some, women are weak, lower than men and are born expressive beings. But, how can we accept women who cry but we cannot accept the same of men? Aren’t we all the same?

Is this attitude the same across the world? Clearly it isn’t. I am appalled that we on the Western side of the world have this terrible view of men who show emotions publicly. We believe that men who show emotions are weak. It is however, the opposite, those men who show emotions are actually strong men. Women will tell you that if a man is strong enough to show emotions publicly they will respect them even more. It does not benefit a person to store up all that emotions inside and never have the boldness to express it. That is what we do when we degrade men who show cry and show emotions; we stifle their emotional and psychological development. Can we save people from heading down a road of suicide? We can if we foster cultures where we accept that is okay to express your deepest emotions.

Take France and other European cultures for example, they do not have cultures where they bash men who show emotions. For them it is quite normal. It would be like walking the street, pretty normal. I believe countries who can accept the expression of emotions are advanced and mature when men and women are able to express themselves not having any fear that they will be chastised for feeling hurt, or even feeling pain.

Women mostly should take responsibility for the attacks men have received because of the expression of emotions. Majority of times they drive this negative escapade. Through those experiences men recognize that hey if I show my emotions she/he will think less of me and think I am weak. I do not know how men have reached this low point. But it is time to prove to men that they are strong emotionally when they are able and freely to express themselves.

man-crying (1)What is also depressing is that the media pushes this culture of allowing men who show emotions to feel like wimps. They support this thrust to have men always exude a presence of power which is not bad. But we must also support the real growth of a man and that is to support the man when he is at his weakest, the moments when he is hurt. Men should be able to express themselves and not have the risk of people calling them the worst names ever.

Times change some say. I hope we will mature culturally and recognize that when men show emotions whether of strength or weakness that they will be seen as normal as they are. NO, a man is not touching his feminine side when he cries, he is a man.

Carrie Prejean

Carrie Prejean

“I’ve done my best under the difficult circumstances to handle the vicious attacks with integrity and show respect to others, even those who don’t agree with me.” – Carrie Prejean

Carrie Prejean was crowned Miss California and was declared 1st runner-up in the Miss USA pageant. After being in the news for her comments on gay marriage, yet again she is back. Carrie Prejean was fired from her position to represent the state of California for breaching her contractual arrangements by Keith Lewis pageant head. However, she is crying foul over the treatment who up to this post had not contacted Prejean of her firing.

Keith Lewis who heads the Miss California pageant agrees with gay marriage and has been fighting with Carrie Prejean since her open stance on the matter. It was agreed after the press conference with Donald Trump that all parties will return to the normal operations of the pageant. This was not meant to be as Shanna Moakler Miss California Co-executive who served on the team at Miss California handed in her resignation from the position she held; which left Keith Lewis to battle it out with Carrie Prejean.

So could all these events be a set-up? Well that is what Prejean is now claiming after Lewis gave her offers from Playboy and a reality series. Prejean also claims that she has been solely responsible for soliciting appearances as the holder of the crown. Who does that?

This is shame on Keith Lewis, for under a month of the last press conference with Donald Trump to not step up and show great management of Carrie Prejean. Shame on him as well for offering her offers such as Playboy and an appearance offer at an event which promotes gay marriage; Doesn’t he consider her safety in all of this?

Apparently not. All the events that have led up to this were to oust Prejean as the queen to have Tami Farrell step in. Isn’t it surprising that Shanna Moakler is considering working for the organization again after the firing?

Prejean remains graceful not bashing anyone in this ordeal; appreciating the decision by Donald Trump who was caught between a rock and a hard place. Carrie Prejean will continue to blaze the trail for other who look up to her for the inspiration to fight for what you believe in. Whatever side you may agree on the matter of gay marriage, we should be able to accept someone’s opinion. That is the way we are going to grow and it is a pity what has transpired here.

To Keith Lewis grow up; Carrie Prejean will now open a new chapter of her life and watch her blaze. This is just the beginning of a new chapter, one filled with new opportunities that are certainly bigger than California.

Earlier this week, I wrote an article responding to an article that bashed a recent condom campaign in Jamaica. Today, my response was published in The Gleaner, a local Jamaican paper.

Have a read.

Jamaica Gleaner News – Embracing sex education – Letters – Wednesday | June 10, 2009

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F_317522_c6KHZ1f7HreolYV5FYUQNSGhVw1gLnThe recent campaign by the Ministry of Health in Jamaica with the tagline ‘Pinch, leave an inch, roll’ has come under fire from certain sectors of the society. Esther Tyson, principal of Ardenne High School in Kingston, Jamaica wrote an article in the Sunday Gleaner condemning the campaign calling for serious adjustments to the message. Her new tagline for the campaign would state ‘value self, value others; self-control and true love waits.’

We live in a society that is over sexualised with not only images but also heavily present in our music. The fact remains that our young people are having unprotected sex and the Ministry of Health recognizes this.  Any campaign that is geared towards educating and influencing the use of condoms with the youth must be embraced. The youth globally not only unique in Jamaica are faced with choices daily and most times the values we would ideally want our youth to accept are ignored upon. Societies today are not projecting the conservative values we are told of. Instead, young individuals are bombarded with the acceptable behaviours of promiscuity and unsafe sexual habits.

The Jamaican society has been characterized as a Christian one. However, one would think the church would be vocal on certain issues but on the contrast they are numb and quiet leaving a sector of society to be leaders teaching our children that unprotected sex is real love. Our youth today has taken that message as gospel preaching it to those who they come in contact with, developing a culture where we have accepted sexual activities among young individuals as a norm.

How do we now combat this problem? The advertising campaign suggested by Esther Tyson to promote value self cannot work. Young individuals are battling low self-esteems, no confidence within themselves and a society where they are searching for role models. Valuing Others? Jamaica is currently one of the murder capitals of the world. We have no respect for life or anyone’s life in this country. True love? If a research should be conducted I am positive the percentage would be high of children born out of wedlock. Therefore the campaign that Tyson suggests is nonsensical, and cannot work in this society. The fact is, the campaign suggested by Tyson would be looked down upon and revamped to change its message simply because it would not be current.

The Ministry of Health’s campaign was spot on. Recognizing that young people today are participating in activities like this, arming them with the correct information can only assist. The campaign teamed up with popular show Magnum Kings and Queens of Dancehall and it was a perfect match because the target audience were fans of the popular show.

It is a pity that Tyson reminds me of Sarah Palin. Sarah Palin as a conservative believes that sex should be solely between married couples. However, Palin’s daughter Bristol Palin got pregnant at only 17 years of age. Sarah Palin as a republican politician has been preaching for all her political life of the sacredness of sex and marriage; when in her own household her daughter was ignoring this message. Esther Tyson serves as principal of Ardenne High School, a top school in Kingston, Jamaica. One would think she would have on the ground experience of what is happening to our youth today. However, Tyson still chants from her high seat that the campaign should be ‘value self, value others; self-control and true love waits.’ One thing is for sure, her students are chanting a different message of ‘Pinch, leave an inch, roll.’

It is time we accept the world we live in presently and start accepting the truth. We live in a society where sorry to say sexual promiscuity is a current trend which is very attractive to our young people. We need more innovative campaigns that will challenge stats quo and be different. After all we are in 2009 and not the 1960’s.

Corve DaCosta