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Grip on that Self Esteem

What is self esteem? Self Esteem reflects a person’s overall evaluation of appraisal of his or her own worth.

This article was birthed out of a discussion I had with someone. They approached me with a question that I did not see coming. The person asked: “Am I attractive?” This question was never asked to seal the individual’s convictions of his/her level of attractiveness. Instead it was asked because I think this individual was insecure about it.

What was intriguing about this situation was that the individual who asked the question personally, I thought they were crazy. Because they are attractive, not even average – above it. The person has attractive skin tone, quality hair, great features, and a wonderful personality to go with all of that. If you are looking someone to settle down with they would be on your list because they lead a balanced life and is incredibly smart. One can imagine my shock. After the conversation ended I thought deeply that there is a bigger issue here. Many times we hear of young girls and boys being insecure, more so girls. Many times as well the media, internet, advertising and magazines are blamed for glamorizing images that are not Main Street.

People who find that they are insecure about anything; it typically becomes a major issue hindering emotional growth among other things.

Improving your self worth is no easy feat especially when you have reached certain levels. However, I believe with certain steps, tips, guidelines whatever a therapist may call it, they can be helped.

  1. Find things to love about yourself

This is critical because if we do not find something to love and adore within ourselves someone will point out one and it may not be all that good. As young people we are embedded in the latest gadgets, technology, and media that we forget the human side of our lives. We need to take time out from all those phones, televisions and internet to have personal time for ourselves. We may not see the importance but can we start looking in the mirror and loving what we see. Be in awe. The fact is, the celebrities who we think have a perfect life and who we look up to also find themselves being insecure about many things.

  1. Surround yourself with positive thinking people.

I think this one is mostly underestimated because we think sometimes we can combat negative people. Newsflash, most times we can’t! If you surround yourself with people who watch their calories to the tee, always pointing out other people’s faults, always degrading others, finding imperfections on their body etc. you might want to change your circle of friends. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and celebrate their lives, people who in a moment will encourage you than fight or tear you down.

  1. Challenge yourself

This will be a task. If you are like me, then you do not have a huge following of friends. J Nothing wrong with that, just treasure the ones you have today. I would tell you to challenge yourself. Test your abilities to find and appreciate things that you will begin to love about yourself. For example: if you hate your weight, get out there and do something about it. Do not try quick fixes; buying tighter fitting clothing to make you look smaller or liposuction. That will not work. Sign up for a gym or work out at home. Yes! Bring the gym home. You do not need a personal trainer. Be cost effective and find videos on Youtube that will challenge you to fight your weight.

  1. Celebrate you!

To overcome your insecurities you must begin to celebrate what have kept you down. I am sure you have seen those public service advertisements on television that have expressed people living under $1 a day, or something to that effect. We have homes to live in, access to the internet, clean air to breathe, food to eat and all these things. To be burdened down with our insecurities are not worth our time. Get out there and celebrate your uniqueness and change what you can change naturally. We have one life to live and living it sad, insecure and bewildered is not an option.

Love your life today and live your best life now! Go!

I have been to many weddings in my lifetime but I haven’t seen any like this. This bridal party entry was over the top and it worked. It worked because the bridal party was not goofy. They all could dance and have fun with it. It is true that when you are having fun doing something that energy is transferred to your audience. Viewers who sit and enjoy this video will love it because the dancers are. The entrance is pretty unique done to one of Chris Brown’s hit.

I have been in charge of music for wedding before and if I had brought this song I am definitely positive it would not have been approved. What was amazing to find out is that the church gave the approval for the song. Well, the churches I know would be not be so liberal.

The bride and groom rocked the church. The bride’s entrance was lovely giving her all the attention. I wonder what happened to the parents though. It would have been lovely to see them getting in on the action.

Watch the video and enjoy. Could this be a new trend? Good bye traditional wedding.

The Quest to find love?

If you live in the world (which we all do), we are bombarded with advertisements surrounding the topic of finding love. Nowadays, people search in various places to find love. More than ever individuals are going online to search for the perfect one. Whether it is on e-harmony or match or MySpace we are desperate for the ultimate one. But how far would you go to find perfect love?

Reality television has highlighted the fact that people go on quests to find the real one and have created these amazing shows some incredible some fall flat but the main aim is to highlight the extreme levels of finding love.

silhouettedcoupleRecently, I saw a promo for a new program showing fabulous plus size girls seeking love. What was interesting is that the person I was watching television was grossed out because the person didn’t want to see fluffy girls seek love in this format on television. I made the point quickly that obese girls need love too. What made it unique was traditionally we only see slim, size zero girls on these reality shows seeking love. It makes it very weird for some people now seeing plus size girls on their quest on main stream media.

How far is too far?

Would you go in a dark room to find love? Would you join a dating site to find love?

A new program to hit the ABC network will have couples move in a house and the dating process would all take place in the dark. However, what happens in the dark would be revealed in the light as the couples would see each other for the first time. Some would be grossed out; I guess the others would like what they see.

I like the fact that people are getting out there to find love. I like the fact that we are finding unique ways to do so. Traditionally, people date by being introduced to friends and date by networking in your own circle. Things and times are changing and people are getting with it. It is no longer weird to date in a dark room, on the job, on the internet or even speed dating. Finding love is now the focus of most people. Individuals want to share their lives with someone special and unique.

To find that unique person, how far would you go? Is finding love on the internet weird for you or we all have come to accept this form of dating?

Share your views!

Letterman and Palin

PALIN CABINETSarah Palin became popular in the 2008 Election in the US. Although not winning the election she has become a voice for the Republican Party. In the general election late night spoofs of her were flattering even damaging the image she tried to create. Recently David Letterman made offensive remarks about her and her 14-year old daughter. The show has come under fire from certain quarters who found the remarks out of line and reprehensible.

Letterman’s remark were below the line calling her image ‘slutty’ and made a joke alluding that a famous baseball star would have sex with Palin’s 14-year old daughter.

Isn’t it amazing that the media is not outraged against this man? Isn’t it amazing that the media isn’t reporting this issue? Isn’t it alarming that feminist groups are being quiet on this incident? Where are the apologies from CBS and David Letterman?

I am outraged; dissatisfied that even a joke like this was made. It is a sad day because those that are expected to speak out and be heard are kept numb to the point where it is deafening.

There is no way a man of this stature can make remarks alluding to violence against a 14-year old. When did we have to lower our standards that low to have laughter? But this was coming a long time ago. The media currently has no respect for Sarah Palin and this is evident as no one is supporting her. I think it is fair game to have a laugh about Sarah Palin. She has made her life a public one and this is a huge decision that an individual make when they put themselves in the media spotlight like this.

I sincerely believe that if Letterman had joked about the Obama’s underage girls like this, there would have been outrage; maybe even cancelling his show would be eminent. But, ‘little’ Sarah Palin from Alaska who seems to only make the news when the laugh is on her deserves no respect.

I must point out that ‘little’ Sarah Palin has led Alaska’s economy well. They are not bailing out any industry within their economy. They are investing more than ever in education, and developing their natural resources to sustain Alaskans. She is sending excess funds to Federal Government to bail out other states. The state even refused to accept bailout funds because they didn’t need it.

Why is this woman constantly attacked for her beliefs? I have no respect now for David Letterman, not that I did have any. What do you think about all this? Is it fair game to make rape jokes about a 14-year old?

Lessons from Susan Boyle

EU BRITAIN SINGING SENSATIONJust over a month ago the world was introduced to the woman who auditioned for Britain’s Got Talent. Traditionally it is believed that contestants on talent shows like these must be young, vibrant, talented and desperate for that huge break. So when this mature woman whose lifelong dream is to become a professional singer walks on stage you can imagine the shock.

The shock and the feeling of disrespect were expressed to her as she began to speak. The disrespect not only came from the audience but in some part expressed by the judges. For some, the nervousness of thousands of people in an audience would scare them. However, she had the courage to ignore all the forces that would hinder her to succeed and give the best rendition of the rehearsed song.

The huge task for most of us is to find our purpose, our rightful place and duties. Susan did not attempt poetry, she did singing. That is the hardest thing for most persons, to identify what you were cut out to do and pursue that which you were made to do. Individuals sometimes take years finding their purpose but when it is found no one can deny the talent. For most of us, we can find it easily but for some it might take a lifetime.

One factor that one cannot ignore is the determination and drive that one has to have. So many times, we let friends, families even our competition deny us of what is rightfully ours because of our fears. But fears only keep us from accomplishing our dreams. In this world, there are so many distractions, the critic whose joy is to tear down, the fans who keep encouraging and is expecting you to defy the odds.

But at the end of the day what decision did you make. Did you make a decision that will secure your future, or you made a decision to satisfy the critics who just want to see you go down. Susan Boyle may be the next huge star but of course there are lessons that can be learnt.

Preparing yourself for the next big thing may just be the opportunity that is coming your way. Of course being ready for the ride will determine how successful you will be. You may never win the race and Susan Boyle did not. She was placed second. Losing with grace and knowing you are a winner yourself makes you appealing and audiences will always respect and look up to stars who express this.

However, she clearly knew how to play the game and that just might have made her the bigger star after the game.