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I would not have seen this movie because it is just not one of those that grabbed my attention because it is not a full drama. I was mistaken.

This post was inspired by Crystal Tyler who left a comment asking if I had heard about the twists in this movie and if I had seen it.

Well, I have now and it blew me away. I liked the movie. I would watch it again if I had two hours or more to spear. The film could have been shorter but maybe it needed that time to tell the story. My head is spinning just recollecting all the twists in this movie. I hope I will do a good job because this is a movie you can’t sleep in, no bathroom breaks either. If you do, you would have missed out on a piece of the puzzle.

Shutter Island

Directed by: Martin Scorsese

Starring: Leonardo DiCaprio, Mark Ruffalo, Ben Kinsley, Michelle Williams, Emily Mortimer, Patricia Clarkson, Jackie Earle Haley, Max Von Sydow.

It’s 1954 and U.S Marshal Teddy Daniels (Leonardo DiCaprio) and his new partner Chuck Aule (Mark Ruffalo) are being sent to investigate the escape of Rachel Solando played by two women (Emily Mortimer and Patricia Clarkson). Do not be confused everything is explained. Rachel, a young woman is convicted of killing her three young children and has escaped from her cell, she is considered dangerous. Shutter Island is a federal maximum security hospital/prison for criminally insane patients.

The movie begins with Teddy Daniels and Chuck Aule in a conversation. Truth be told, this is their first meeting which is revealed closer to the end of the movie. So their role is to solve this big mystery of the missing patient at Shutter Island. There is no way off the island, only a ferry seems to have access to it. Upon their arrival they are briefed and reminded of all the rules that govern Shutter Island.

The cops are introduced to Dr. Cawley (Ben Kingsley) who thinks everyone is a potential patient at Shutter Island. He is good in the film, very serious and seems to be in all the right places at all times.

There is no way to escape Shutter Island which leads Teddy Daniels to think Rachel is still on the island. Teddy Daniels is being haunted by his own hallucinations of his wife Dolores (Michelle Williams) who haunts him constantly. He is still in love with his wife, who appears to be helping him solve the case as well – giving him directions.

After the hour mark in the film the pieces all fall into place with an ending no one could imagine. Leonardo DiCaprio in the movie is at his best. His co-star Mark Ruffalo sometimes is shaky but he holds up to the calibre of DiCaprio. The different juxtapositions in the film are not to confuse the viewers but help in some way. Some roles are doubled with conviction. It leaves the viewer in a position where you become a lost person in a maze and just wants everything to be solved. At the end of the movie you wonder if it was all necessary but it makes the movie what it is – a good watch. If you love movies and I mean love movies then you will want to see this film over and over again. I don’t think the first watch will explain all the twists the movie had but it certainly was entertaining. The movie is also a period film –great set design. You cannot ignore the choice of music for the film. As you hear it you think it was deliberately chosen. It is not sweet and calm but to create a particular effect.

I could not end though without sharing that an encounter Teddy Daniels had with a patient at one of the wards places everything in perspective. It took a storm, cutting electricity for that to happen. Just to say, the conversation revealed who Teddy Daniels was and who he was searching for – himself. The movie is so good that it makes the viewer become Teddy Daniels and allows you to feel the pain he struggles with caught between hallucinations and his own reality. It is revealed to Teddy Daniels the truth that everyone at the facility knows about him and his problem.

If you want to read how the movie really went, continue. I know you would want to read it.

Essentially Teddy Daniels lived a happy life. He came home one evening to see his three children all lying dead in the lake behind their house. In grieving, he shot his wife, killing her. Apparently at this point he went bizarre and had to be placed at Shutter Island – which takes us to the beginning of the movie. Understanding who he is, they tricked him into thinking he is going to Shutter Island to solve a mystery – the missing patient but instead he was there for his own treatment.

In all of this, he figures out he is not there to solve the mystery of the missing girl (they found her) but he becomes the 67th patient at Shutter Island.

There are even more twists in the movie. His pal Chuck Aule is revealed to be his doctor and he has been treating him for 24 months.

When the truth is finally revealed to Teddy Daniels at the end, he is flabbergasted because it is turning out to be true. Therefore everything we saw in the beginning is now false.

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What is Money

It’s the root of all evil

It pays the bills,

It may heal your ills

And bring you thrills.

According to Wikipedia, money is anything that is generally accepted as payment for goods and services and repayment of debts. For everyone, we interpret and treat money differently. Whether it is the abundance of wealth or the lack thereof there is a certain level of importance which we all seem to place on the precious commodity. From the Forbes list to the United Nations Poorest Countries list we seem to rank everything from those who do not have it to those who have it and may waste it. We live in a world where it seems to have a voice you should have cash to care.

If you grew up in an environment where everything is lavish, fabulous and expensive, you will view money differently from those who did not. It is highly probable that when you enter a certain level of wealth your expenses tend to be higher than others. It is true because you have to keep up with the lifestyle you live. One at this rank does not imagine the day when they will have nothing. Therefore, they will invest in portfolios, real estate and make other investments to maintain their wealth. The responsibilities that come with the lifestyle are also important. Case in point – Casey Johnson. Who knew someone could be kicked to the curb from a family who seemed to have everything? It seems more and more families with a vast amount of wealth are throwing out those family members who could appear to put the family’s wealth in jeopardy. Those who are rich sometimes are forced to continue that legacy to maintain their stature. On the contrary, persons who are rich can mismanage their wealth and become poor. Fantasia, the American Idol winner recently on Oprah opened up about her fall from grace. After buying her home and settling in, she had problems keep it. Her home fell into foreclosure and at one point she was unable to buy a pizza, her card failed. Money can be easy come and easy go. It takes proper financial management and financial sense to keep it.

For those who grew up in a poor background, they understand the importance of money. For many, money is the way out of poverty and they will place all their focus on avenues that could get them out of that state. Whether it is a talent, education or an illegal activity, poor people in the right environment can charter a new course out of poverty. We have seen numerous stories of people who did not have it but with the right attitude and approach they were able to live a better life. Oprah, Jay Z, and Hilary Swank just to name a few have gone from the lowest echelon to some of the richest people in our world.

However, people who are poor see money differently. People who are poor or who are in destitute positions do not see the importance of saving for the future and having investment accounts. Give someone who is poor a bank card with funds that could keep them for a month and see how fast that money goes. They tend to see money as short term, so they spend it to make them content in the moment. While there are others that if you give them the same amount they wouldn’t spend most of it because they understand the position they are in and have an idea of where they would like to be.

Money today is perceived based on cultural attitudes as well. In our world today, young people are materialistic. We tend to focus on what is in, the latest Bling and fashions. The entertainment industry is pushing this attitude of ‘you can have it all’ and at all costs.

Money and the abundance of it can last a lifetime if we understand the basic concepts. As human beings we need to live within our means and recognize that if we spend more than we earn we will be poor. No one wants to be poor; we want to be independent, strong and able to survive. With rising standards of living and costs going up, the worst thing that could happen to us is to lack needed funds. Money can be our way out of poverty but it can also lead to our own detriment.

It is significant that we inculcate cultures where we are not so highly materialistic but we begin to inspire people that can handle wealth without ruining their lives in the pursuit of it. Sure money is good and wonderful to have but the love of it could ruin our lives.

The movie Extraordinary Measures is an inspirational movie about a father and his quest to find the right medication for his two children that are suffering from Pompe disease.

This is a genetic disease that affects children that disables the heart and muscles. Because of the underdevelopment of the muscles it leaves them confined to a wheelchair. Children with this disease normally die at around age nine, at that stage the organs enlarge. You can imagine the shock and the despair John Crowley (Brendan Fraser) and Aileen Crowley (Keri Russell) parents of the children feel when they are told their young children have less than a year to live.

The family leads a pretty normal life, a working dad, stay at home mom with three children to care for. The father, a leading corporate executive is faced with a dilemma; to stay at his job and enjoy the perks of promotions – increased benefits, meeting deadlines and to watch his kids die from a disease that will rob them of a future before they are teenagers or leave the job and find the cure.

Directed by Tom Vaughan, the movie’s cinematography is not only good but shows his experience. The scenes in the movie are amazing; they will grip you from the beginning to end. The characters all have personalities that make you connect more with them. The daughter Megan is full of personality, a typical 8 year old who desires a future. She likes pink and loves to play.

John Crowley (Brendan Fraser) decides to fight the battle with his kids and leaves the state to the University of Nebraska where he meets Dr. Stonehill (Harrison Ford). Dr. Robert Stonehill (Harrison Ford) is a scientist who has explored the area of Pompe and has developed what he thinks is the cure. Leaving his wife behind with the children, John Crowley meets with Dr. Stonehill after chasing him down in the wee hours of the morning from his university office to a bar. At the bar, a relationship develops between the two. It leads to a business relationship, with both men partnering to find a cure to help the children, Megan Crowley (Meredith Droeger) and Patrick Crowley (Diego Velazquez).

To make John Crowley’s dream a reality of not only benefiting his own children they meet with executives from drug manufacturers. With this new partnership there are other issues that arise which make the movie even more exciting to watch. Extraordinary Measures is a true story and is an adaptation of the novel The Cure by Geeta Anand.

The movie also explores at length the politics, tribalism, materialistic goals of drug companies. I understand this is a moral dilemma for them and the company executives from the drug company kept emphasizing the importance of objectivity. Because, dealing with drugs, medicines and treating people if you are caught up with the Utilitarian Principle (doing good for the greatest number of people) you may not have a successful company at the end of the day. Drug companies are in business to make a profit and not primarily to save patients at the end of the day.

In the movie John Crowley, the father of the children is caught up emotionally with finding a cure that there is a huge disagreement between him and the company executives. When the company had completed the process and it was time to test the medication, it caused a major conflict of interest. There was a conflict of interest because John Crowley had a vested interest in the company and he also had an interest in the success of the product. Of course he wanted his children to have the medication first. To solve the issue, he was fired from the company. It was sad to see him go but the drug company maintained their strict adherence to policy.

His children did receive the needed medication. The testing worked and they responded well. The movie ends on a good note. Extraordinary Measures will not have you crying but its emotional journey will have you supporting these parents that placed everything on the line – their relationship and jobs to fight for a cure to save their ailing children. You will be cheering on these parents.

I only wish that you will get a hold of this movie and see it. It is worth your time. I yearn for the will that I might have the same fervour and strength these parents had in their darkest moment. The strength to fight on till the desired end is attained.

This post is dedicated to a blogger and a friend of this site who revealed that he has cancer. All of us here wish him the very best and a speedy recovery. I trust that he will not only have the audacity of hope but the certainty of faith that he will get better. Read his updates on his blog. http://jammer5spolyrant.wordpress.com/

Happy Valentine’s Day

To all of you!

Happy Valentine’s Day

It is a day officially for lovers. However, we are going to change that and spread a little more love today to all the people we come in contact with. Love is not all about being intimate and cozy with the one you love but it is also about sharing your life and giving of your best to he many people we see and communicate with on a daily basis.

Today let us all rekindle the fire of love where if I see you doing something wrong, love can correct it. It is love that makes me smile with you on a bad day or even when you have hurt others. Love is unconditional, not only desired in certain circumstances.

This is dedicated to all the lovers out there.

Let us use Valentine’s Day to love a little more. Rekindle the love today.

Photos from Craig Bloomfield. Click photos to reach to his blog.

Photos from Craig A Bloomfield.

Photos from Craig A Bloomfield

30,000 HITS STRONG

Welcome everyone,

This blog has receive over 30,000 hits. When I passed my first 10,000th mark I received a comment from Ken who said “This is an awesome milestone. But you reach 20,000 even faster.” That appears to be so true and today we add 10,000 more.

If you’re a faithful viewer of my blog you will know we celebrate each milestone. This one is no different and we are launching an exciting contest.

BLOG CONTEST – WRITE OF THE GUEST BLOGGER

Two individuals will be awarded the opportunity to appear as Guest Bloggers on February 8 and February 9, 2010.

Entry Requirements:

  1. Leave a comment on this post (that will award you one entry). Your blog name will appear on the entry form.
  2. If you do not own a blog, you may still participate by leaving a comment. The notification I receive will provide your email address, which I will save and that will be on your entry form.
  3. To double your entry, RETWEET this: I just entered Write of the Guest Blogger on https://corvedacosta.wordpress.com/2010/01/20/30000-hits-strong/ Enter by clicking on the link.
  4. To triple your entry, you will have to comment three times on the post.

It is as simple as A, B, C.

Entries are now open and will be closed on Saturday, January 30, 2010 midnight.

Being the winners of this competition, you will have exclusive rights and authority on what is posted for the assigned days. In addition a widget with your blog/image will be posted at the top right position on the blog from February 1, 2010 to February 12, 2010 linking the photos to your blog (if you have one).

***Corve DaCosta has the right to reject any inappropriate post from the winners.

The Grand Draw of the winners will be posted on January 31, 2010 on this blog via a YouTube video.

All the best and May the best blogger win. Let the games begin.

I am excited about this and I hope you will enter.

Let’s celebrate 30,000 HITS.

Welcome to the twelfth edition in the series of the Water Cooler – appears every Sunday on this blog. This feature will highlight what’s hot, topical and up for discussion.

Here we go.

Politics

The speech at West Point was disappointing. Obama has pledged to send 30,000 more troops to the Afghan war. Here is a President who campaigned with his whole heart and who convinced many around the world that he would have ended the war. In his speech Obama mentioned he was against the war initially but with him being in office his actions shows the opposite.

There is no way anyone can support this war at this time. It has been going on for who knows when and no one knows for sure when it will all end because you don’t end a war in a night. The withdrawal of the thousands of troops is another war in itself and a new process. I support conservatives and Republican beliefs sometimes and support those issues important to Democrats alike. However, this decision to continue a war goes against everything Obama stands for. His support to continue the war pushes America in a deeper recession and those developing countries and developed ones that depend on the growth of the USA are also terrified about their future. The situation of skyrocketing unemployment figures and the housing sector is going to get worse. The fact is the trillions of dollars that could be spent on supporting national security (God Bless Lou Dobbs’ heart), generating small businesses, getting people back to work etc those monies are shipped overseas to support a losing war. No one expects the USA to win the fight against terrorism. They are fighting ideologies and a radical movement that will continue indefinitely. I would support a decision to end the war and secure your own borders because we all know, not even the borders of the USA are secure.

The effects this will have on Obama will be disastrous. This week I read a report where Angelina Jolie spoke out against Obama being a one term President. When you have Jolie making a statement like that – things are bad. It’s not a statement that you laugh at, it may be reality. Obama needs to take stock of the situation. What we are seeing being played out is straight politics. Whether that will hurt Americans in the future, who knows? As a generation we need to make decisions that the future generations will look back and say they did the right thing.

Entertainment

What would we do without a Cheetah I mean Tiger Woods?

Red turns him on. Just do it!

The drama surrounding Tiger Woods gets deeper and deeper and wider and deeper and wider. This week was a roller coaster ride for the best golfer we have ever seen in our lifetime. Let me first start out by saying that Tiger Woods will go down. There is no way he can keep all of his endorsements. Tiger Woods is a brand and that brand in public opinion has been tarnished, dragged in the tabloids dirt and there is no way he can recover from this one. When you project an image of ‘the best’ and ‘refinement’ and when those qualities are questioned, you have a problem.

What a pity! To have everything the world could offer and live a nasty lie, it makes you look silly. I do not think she will come out supporting him. Instead, I hope she divorces his ass, receive the millions she is worth and then have those endorsement deals end. All of this is a sideshow. My concern is about the children because we never can underestimate the impact this will have on the kids for their entire lives. To have their father cheat on their mother not only once but the tens of mistresses that are coming forward and forward I want them to.

No matter how it’s sweet to hear how good and endowed he is and his freakiness in bed that does not comfort the many lives he has wrecked. His family must be hurt, not to mention his immediate. This is a message to all those who live a public life. You do not use the media to promote yourself and then blame it when you have suffered pain. I want the media to drench the internet with his messy lifestyle and ensure this guy does not benefit in the future.

I overheard people talking this week about how wicked the media is and they should all leave him alone. Leave him alone for what! I also blame his wife.

Love & Relationship

I blame his wife for not doing enough. Many men and women enter marriages and they are clueless. Through the mistresses that have come forward we are learning how freaky Tiger can be. I have no problem with someone being freaky and wanting to explore. If Tiger’s wife Elin is a holy-ghost, spirit filled, Christian, conservative in bed then we know why Tiger left the matrimonial home to satisfy his needs. The days are gone and times have changed, you better be willing to satisfy your partner or suffer like many other wives and husbands who leave their partners to satisfy themselves. One of the mistresses from Tiger’s past reveals he like red underwear and how he likes it in different places. It may be too much information but this whole story shows a man who is desperate for love or he loves a good time. My advice to dating and married couples are you better be willing to satisfy your partner, change things up, mix things up, go somewhere else, because God knows if you won’t someone else will. The world may come crashing in or cashing in when you find out.

HOLD ON! How could I have forgotten other cheaters. You remember Kobe who when he cheated on his wife bought a house for her finger – the ring. Well I have a suggestion for Tiger Woods. This song was leaked to the internet and I think it is so appropriate for Woods now. The song is by Alicia Keys feat Beyonce – Put it in a love song.

Extra

How could we foget? The hungry wanna be celebrities who crashed Obama’s party. I do not think they should be charged for anything. They should have been turned away and not allowed to enter the area. I like SNL’s take on the issue and who knows what you will see in the video could have gone down at the Whitehouse.

Inspiration

Be kind one to another. Sharing is caring.

ThanksgivingContest09

WordPress is currently having a competition entitled Thanksgiving Contest 09. The deadline passed and it was extended to December 4, 2009. I was always interested from the start and just got around to creating the video.

Enjoy my video. I had lots of fun putting it all together – took a lot of work 🙂 The entire night. So it is now wee hours in the morning and I must get my beauty sleep – I have work in a few hours. TGIF!

The video essentially shows the components that make my life balanced and happy and at ease. This is my Thanksgiving.

To comment on the blog, click reply at the top of the post (to the right of the tags) or hit reply below to comment on an existing comment. Have your say!

Advertisements are a form of communication that is used to persuade consumers to purchase a product. Advertisements form part of every marketing plan of a product or service and takes on different forms as technology increases. The costs vary and while some may be expensive, companies invest a lot of energy and monies in getting them right the first time. Most large businesses do not develop advertisements on their own but contract agencies to perform that aspect of the job. We cannot deny the immense power advertisements have on a potential market and will not underestimate the powers they may have over a particular group of people.

As marketers, we have to be very careful with the messages we send with an advert. In that, when you create an advertisement you have to ensure that are not violating rights and also not discriminating against any group among others while at the same time accomplish other objectives. Advertising executives with their creative teams must ensure that these advertisements do not offend a group and that to me is the most important factor to be considered when creating advertisements.

The Jamaican market is not an educated one and that is no excuse to produce adverts that are not fashionable, full of taste and ones that are refined. Recently, over a year there have been advertising campaigns promoting energy drinks. Of course in a sexualized country like Jamaica, sex doesn’t only sell it is embedded in everything we hear and see. This is not to say that this does not exist in other markets and are with other products or services but it exist in a raunchy way.

In this post I have decided to analyze two advertisements that promote a similar product. Both are energy drinks but the company has decided to highlight the feature where it assumes to help someone’s sexual drive. Nothing is wrong with that, some people need the help and are grateful for such but it shouldn’t be done in a distasteful way that offends groups especially when the ad is booked to be seen by children.

The first video below is the product called Magnum. They released this video maybe over a year ago and had the tag line “a mus di magnum inna him” which translates in English to mean “It’s the magnum in him”.  The advertisement depicts a couple in a bedroom. The woman slips in the bathroom to take a break apparently from the hot sexual experience. Overall the advertisement although sexy is tame to some extent not giving much away, leaving much to your imagination. Watch below.

The other product called Mandingo is another energy drink which promises to assist you with your sexual abilities in the bedroom. On the streets Jamaicans combine this product with beers to make a stronger drink which even heightens your ability in the bedroom – so they say! This advert however, is very trashy, offending and is distasteful in every way. This advertisement should not have been approved with the extreme and over the top sexiness. This advertisement is shown when families sit to watch television on any given evening. In posting the videos I have decided to post the first Mandingo commercial.

I am not amazed with the production of some advertisements in Jamaica. I know people who create advertisements for major international companies here and they have no experience in marketing only a connection and network. It is sad because they give others in the field a bad name because of their poor reputation. My favourite video above is the first one – I must say. The female talent in the advertisement is very convincing, and she does a great job by not being over the top – just safe. However, the female talent in the second video who is a popular porn star is very raunchy, sick and unappealing. The second Mandingo commercial is so in your face and it makes it blah. Nothing to aspire to be or anything left to the viewer’s imagination. Anyway, that’s Jamaica advertising for you. Don’t get me wrong we have great ads too.

We couldn’t end on a bad note, so I decided to post an advertisement from Japan. It is an energy drink and just watch how sexual abilities doesn’t play a role in the advert. We know Japanese to be hardworking and ambitious people-they accomplished just that in the advertisement.

Welcome to the fifth edition in the series of the Water Cooler – appears every Sunday on this blog. This feature will highlight what’s hot, topical and up for discussion.

Here we go.

Others in the Series:

Water Cooler, Water Cooler Ed. 2, Water Cooler Ed. 3, Water Cooler Ed. 4

Politics

On Friday October 2, 2009 the Obama administration traveled to Copenhagen, Denmark to encourage the International Olympic Committee (IOC) to choose Chicago, USA for the 2016 Summer Olympic Games. Competing with Chicago were Madrid, Tokyo and Rio. With local issues behind and pundits crying out for him to stay and focus on the problems affecting the country, Barack Obama flew to Denmark to make the case for Chicago his home state.

Later in the afternoon, the first round of voting eliminated Chicago’s bid to host the 2016 games. Many people especially Americans were shocked and flabbergasted by their early elimination. The energy surrounding Chicago’s bid and information that the media reported was that the decision would have been between Rio and Chicago. Oh how they were wrong?

When I heard the words “Rio de Janeiro” to host the 2016 Olympic Games I had mixed emotions. I am happy that the South American country will be able to host the games of such magnitude there and it shows great leadership and planning on the part of the Brazilian team. The twitter world was lit up by this announcement with IOC, Chicago and Rio as trending topics. What also struck me was that many people seemed happy that Chicago had lost the bid. Were these sentiments ‘un-American’? Were theses feelings driven by conservatives?

In this post I want to share the information that was presented to the International Olympic Committee. I am doing this to give readers a front row seat in the presentations that were delivered. Below are the video presentations and speeches of Chicago and Rio to host the 2016 games.

I must say hands down the presentation by the Rio team was concrete. It articulated a phenomenal approach to the games. The video presentation outlined to the delegates was unique and displayed quality images to show voters what they would expect from Brazil hosting such a game. The video presentation made you believe that this would be spectacular; it challenged your imagination and made you believe that athletes would live their passions in Brazil. This was followed by a moving speech that was delivered with such emotion and one that would make the delegates move to action to choose Rio as the perfect destination.

The Chicago bid was different from the Rio presentation. In that it presented the information but was low on substance – imagery.  The presentation would be what my lecturers accuse my classmates of having – it was all over the place. It was not compelling and not believable. As we saw in the Rio presentation a focus was on sporting activities and the athletes; I did not see that in Chicago’s bid. I got the impression that they (the athletes) would be spread across the city like nomads. In Rio’s presentation, although they (the athletes and games) are in four areas, it had an aim in mind. I watched the videos carefully and nowhere in Chicago’s video do you see people. They talked about humanity and friendship and one would have liked to see two people laughing or sharing something. The video showed buildings, google earth graphics and animations the entire time.

michelle-obama404_676280cSpeeches by the Obama’s and the others didn’t help. Michelle Obama before her trip to Denmark said the Obama team would be taking the bid as the Iowa primary. What was their focus? Clearly they thought these delegates would have been bought by their fame and shared ignorance of what the Olympic Games are all about or they are still in campaign mode. The Chicago team sent the wrong signal expecting everything to change with Obama’s presence; in their words “to put it in the bag.” With Michelle Obama lies and a groggy President Obama the speeches clearly made the delegates cringe. Michelle Obama stated that she sat on her father’s lap cheering on Carl Lewis etc. Which 20 year old sits on a father’s lap at that stage of their life watching the Olympics? Barack Obama’s speech didn’t help. He focused on his ego and him winning the election, this is not what the speech should have surrounded. He should have emphasized more the decision that they had to make and how Chicago is the best option. Obama wants to step a few blocks from his home with Michelle and his girls to welcome the world. Wouldn’t it have sounded better if he stated that Chicagoans and Americans want to welcome the world to their shores?

Who would you have voted for? What do you think?

Love & Relationship

Many people would agree that compromises are the hallmark of all relationships. Sharing an environment like a home isn’t always easy for couples; living together or dating. Couples who face this challenge face a real divide especially dsc_0076when pets are at the heart of the issue. A dating partner may compromise on one pet, but what should be done when the other keeps adopting more animals? Surely, pets should be cared for and deserve a home. Should your partner keep adopting pets ignoring your preference of having none at all? Or shouldn’t it be an issue once you are not allergic to one?

Having pets is surely a rewarding experience for those who love them but it should never be at the expense of your partner’s happiness or experience.

Inspiration

2072865350015798315S500x500Q85This week’s inspiration has to deal with taking care of our bodies. We have one life to live and one body to experience it with. Eating the right foods and exercising regularly should be everyone’s focus as we get older. We are busier than ever these days with family obligations, our own education pursuits, workplace issues etc. We should however take some quality time in taking care of ourselves. If it means taking a well needed check-up at the doctor, a massage at a spa, that visit to the dentist, for women – that pap smear test and for men prostate exam. You have one body; take care of your health this week and on.

Single Ladies Generation

Beyonce

Beyonce

Pull me into your arms
Say I’m the one you WANT
if you don’t, you’ll be alone
and like a ghost I’ll be gone

Lyrics from Beyonce’s Single Ladies

For some time now I have not taken Beyonce’s Single Ladies song seriously. I have listened to the song many times but thought it was a fun, great song to dance to (not me lol), never thinking about the hard issues embedded in it until I had a heart to heart conversation with a friend.

For many who have tried dating and searching for love, they’ll admit how sad it gets when the man you expect to pop the question never does, but gets so scared.

I do not support people who spend years dating and flirting with a steady boyfriend/girlfriend and never asks the question to be married or even become exclusive partners. It is ridiculous and makes the guy (most times we are expected to have that discussion) look silly and his actions questionable. Is he there for the long haul? Is he nervous about commitments? Whatever the answer, guys who flirt around for years, afraid to enter marriage, will most often lose the girl.

Personally, I think men who are wary to enter commitments show characteristics that women should refrain from entertaining in their lives. If both parties give selflessly to the relationship and the man doesn’t ask the question, should the female let him go? Should women be expected to start popping the marriage/commitment question then? Certainly women will not consider the suggestion that they should start going on one knee. I would say the  majority of us (both male and female) would agree that the decision should be left to the man to make.

Now, more than ever, women are not waiting on men to propose. In the twinkling of an eye, another gentleman or lady is ready to pick up where you left off. This brings me to the line Beyonce shouts in her song, “Where my ring at?”

Many women are asking, “where is my ring?”. Come on: a good partner doesn’t come along twice. When you have found the one that completes you, challenges you and makes love the best, “put a ring on it.”

If you don’t, you’ll be alone, and like a ghost they’ll be gone. – Beyonce’s Single Ladies